Monday, September 16, 2013

11 Months

Caroline, you are 11 months old.  I can hardly believe it. You are my LITTLE baby with a BIG personality. 
~You are crawling FAST. You do not stop all day. You love to play with the remote, pull out all of the DVD's and I swear you know how to work the DVD player. Your dad and I have seen you turn it on more than once,
~ You have really gotten good at pulling up and have starting side stepping
~ You give kisses, blow kisses, and raise your hands when we call the Hogs!
~ you still just have the 2 teeth on bottom

~ You're eating (small) 3 meals a day and still taking 5 bottles a day with 7.5 oz of formula
~ You're a great eater. You eat table food and I give you no baby food. We cut up bananas, blueberries, strawberries, cucumber, sweet potato, tomatoes, and yogurt
~ you will drink water out of a sippee cup but not milk. Sometimes I'm afraid you'll go to Kindergarten with a bottle
~ You're wearing size 3 diapers
~ You're wearing 9-12 month clothes and size 2 shoes
~ You love to sing
~ You love bath time
~ You love playing with Gus and Fifi
~ You love playing in Gus's water bowl and I tell you at least 20 times a day "no" when you reach for it
~ You do NOT like having your diaper changed (it means having to be still)

~ You LOVE your nanny Miss Becca. (And so do your mom and dad.)
~ You love your grandparents. When they are around you want nothing to do with us.

~ We left you for the first time overnight this past weekend. Mom had to go to Vegas for work.  Each of us has left you overnight with the other, but this was the first time for both of us to leave you for more than 1 night. Your Joodge and Baba kept you and you had a ball. We had a great time too, but we REALLY missed you!
I can't believe it's time to plan your first birthday party! It seems impossible that you could be one year old. I am looking forward to celebrating your life with family and friends next month. Mommy loves you SO much!

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Be The Gift

I am excited to host a guest post from Keisha, a blog friend and cancer survivor. If you are like me, HATE cancer and will do anything to help find a cure... here is your chance!
Hey guys, I’m Keisha.  You can normally find my version of crazy over at, but today I get to hang out with the Fites and all of you!  And while I don’t have a cute picture to include of Caroline that probably would have made you read more!  But, I assure you this has everything to do with her.

I started my blog in 2008 as a way to share with friends and family about my personal journey with cancer.  When I was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma at age 25, I had lots of people who were curious but didn’t want to ask questions or who wanted an update and asked every day.  So, I birthed “bigpittstop” out of the drive to journal my thoughts and share my journey.  6 months later, after I finished treatment and was announced in Remission, I had to begin to learn to navigate my “new normal”.  Talk about a process!  I was 26, a single gal living 300 miles away from my family, in my dream job and trying to figure out how I was going to move beyond this label of “cancer survivor”.  I embraced it, but I didn’t want it to define me.  So I navigated.  I mistaked.  I dreamed.  I loved.  I lost.  And, I kept evolving. 

A year ago, I had the opportunity laid before me to join the team of the American Cancer Society.  It was my “someday” job.  My “when I’m ready to leave where I am” job.  My “when the right door opens, I’ll step through it” job.  But, here’s the deal.  Once you’ve walked through a cancer journey you understand that you don’t have time to wait for “somedays”.  Today comes and it goes and that’s all you’ve got.  So the organization I had been volunteering for became my employer.  (insert chapter 3 of bigpittstop!)

That’s what brings me to the opportunity that Heather has opened up for me to share with you.  3 years ago the American Cancer Society embarked on a transformational program and 3 weeks ago we kicked off and launched our enrollment locally in Northwest Arkansas for the Cancer Prevention Study – 3.  So what’s the big deal?  Oh, I’m so glad you asked!

This is the first time a local cancer research opportunity has come to Northwest Arkansas and will help us provide answers for the next generation.  The first one conducted in the 50s linked cancer and smoking and led to the Surgeon General’s label being added to cigarettes.  The second, done in late 70s, linked obesity and cancer.  But, the group that enrolled has aged out of a research population and in order to continue to get answers moving forward, it’s time to enroll a new research group. 

So, we are asking everyone aged 30-65 who has never had cancer to consider enrolling in the study.  You will be part of a 20 year, long-term study.  To enroll you just go to and choose your location and time.  You know – early bird gets the worm, or the exact time they want - so we have them set up as 15 minute time slots for your convenience.  Once you pick your time online you will be sent a survey.  It will probably take you 30 minutes or so (depending on computer skills) to complete before you come for your enrollment appointment.  Then, day of, it only takes about 15 minutes.  You will be giving a small blood sample similar to what you would give for general lab work.  That’s it.  Then, every 2 years or so they will send a survey for you to complete (I’d like to say by email, but can you imagine what social media and other communications technology tools will be developed in the next 20 years?!?!?!).

What are they looking for?  Answers.  This study will focus on lifestyle and environment – where we live, what we do, what we eat, how active are we, etc.  How does what we do to ourselves affect us long term?  It’s crazy to think that just 50 years ago we didn’t know what smoking would do to us and because that first group of over 1 million people got involved and was willing to be asked a few personal questions and give a small blood sample, we get to make healthier decisions today.

Technology is only good so long as we use it. There are millions of apps out there that might simplify some of our lives but they don't do us any good unless we download them. Yes that new TV and Cardinal Red grill (yes, I’m a follower!) would make tailgating 3x more fun, but if we don't go out and take advantage then we've only dreamed and not acted.

My challenge is to ask you to ACT. If you wait until tomorrow to register to enroll in this, you've missed your chance. We are encouraging as many people to register by Sept 3, this will allow us to plan and prepare for the enrollment – did I mention we are trying to enroll 500 during the 4 days in Northwest Arkansas.

Enrollment Dates are September 17 – 20

Sept 17 | Hope Cancer Resources | Springdale | 9AM-1:30PM

Sept 18 | Fayetteville Public Library | Fayetteville | 2PM – 6:30PM

Sept 19 | Mercy Family YMCA | Rogers, Village on the Creeks| 9AM-1:30PM

Sept 20 | Center for Non-Profits | Rogers | 9AM – 1:30PM

I recently walked into an office that had this sign hanging above the counter where they served customers- “There is no place like this place anywhere near this place, so this must be the place.”  Not only is this the place, but this is the time. I believe we are close to answers.  I believe answers can come in a lifetime.  But we have to stop thinking “someone else will do it” or “they have plenty of people”. Truth is everyone is thinking that.  So, we need YOU.  Your kids need you.  Their friends, classmates and future spouses need you.  Your grand kids need you. I'm guessing that the median age of the readership here probably isn't thinking about grand kids, but neither were those guys in 1950 sitting around a room smoking asking "you think there's something to this?"  Yes!  And we life healthier, longer, more productive lives because of them.

Be the gift. Enroll. 

Need one more really good reason – check out this video

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If you don't live in NWA, there are enrollment sites all over the nation. Check out

Thanks again to Heather.  Thanks to you for reading this far!  And, if you live in Northwest Arkansas and are curious about our local services or how you can volunteer with the American Cancer Society don’t hesitate to give me a call at our local office in Rogers – 479-246-0002.